Through the Fire


How do you know you’re in the biggest FIRE phase of your life? What are the signs?

  • struggle

  • exhaustion

  • frustration

  • set backs

  • foggy brain

  • loss of passion

  • losing touch with your "why"

….to name a few.

How do you know you are OUT of the fire? You will know the moment you are OUT and not ONE moment before. This happened to me last week. On a Monday to be exact. 



Five years ago, I was three years into being a single mom, had completed a 200hr yoga training, retired from a 26 year career as a flight attendant, and embarked on my yoga journey that landed me in Baron Baptiste’s Level 1 training in Sedona, AZ.  

That 8-day boot camp solidified the methodology that was to be taught at my new life’s path:  Authentic Yoga Life Studio in Denton.

It was my daily yoga practice that empowered me to rise up, leave my marriage and become the single working mom I was NEVER going to do or be. (*note to self: drop the word “never”.)

It was in that quiet space, I internally knew I needed a different career path. One where my feet were on the ground so I could be there for my son in the way I wanted and needed to be.

Yoga seemed the most natural transition. Opening a studio was the answer.



  • Create a space where growth seekers could come to their mat and have the same empowering experience I had. 

  • Be a safe place that would hold space for student's discoveries and their limiting belief stories.  

  • Do what I do best, bring in the “professionals” (with much more knowledge than me) to help teach US what we needed to know and to help us heal from what needed to be healed.



Authentic Yoga Life was created to HOLD ME ACCOUNTABLE to my personal growth. If others were able to find the same goodness, than win-win!

Creating the space and this business was the most exhilarating time for me. I described the experience to my mentor as “being in the flow of a fast moving river!”, to which she quickly responded with, “This too shall pass.”

And did it EVER.

No Baptiste teachers wanted to drive to Denton to teach. So it was the Valerie show. However, here is the thing, I never wanted to or intended to teach yoga. 

Now I must tell you one of my most favorite things to do is PLAY SMALL. I had this huge expansion by putting the studio out there for others. However, I had no intention of actually showing UP and being the “face” of AYL! 

But when there is no other choice - you do it. 

So I did. 

I taught every class, cleaned the studio, did the technical computer stuff, the marketing, a LOT of towel washing, etc. I did it ALL! I had a few helpers along the way which allowed me to start slipping back into the background where I would literally stay for the next four years. I was  behind the scenes tackling personal stories that have always held me back, dealing with scary court issues with the toxic ex and dodging a variety of different characters that came into my life that weren’t there for my greater good. 

I have literally been trudging through this FIRE  - THIS fire. ( I say that because I believe every situation & relationship has the potential to be its own little or big fire…in other words, lesson. Depending on how strong you believe your story, depends on the severity of the fire {lesson} and how long the fire walking will be.)

This, my friends, IS my biggest fire. Showing up authentically, allowing myself to be seen, and standing in my own power because I’m worth it, has been a fire I’ve been walking though my whole life. This was just that last grueling five years towards the exit OUT the other side.


Here are the signs of how I knew I had stepped OUT of the fire:

  • I could actually look back and see what I had gone through. (You know you’re in the fire, but you can’t necessarily SEE it.)

  • I could complete a whole thought process!

  • I could rise up and out of my business to see what it needs!

  • I could remember all the ideas I had thought of a minute ago!

  • I could understand the lessons that I’ve been needing to learn!

Seriously - the clarity was REAL in that moment last Monday.

Being out of the fire doesn’t mean it's all FIXED and gone forever. It means it’s time to get BUSY rewriting and rewiring your beliefs and stories with all of your new knowledge and lessons. YAY!



So then, the question became: What to do now? How do I begin shifting this ridiculous story and show up for my business and my personal life in ways I was unable to do until last MONDAY?


Did I mention I hate writing? I’m VERY resistant to it (Just like the resistance that comes up while holding FROG for the entirety of Krishna Das’ “God Is Real/Hare Ram”.).  Journaling is a challenge and has been non-existent in my life. BUT, I have a story to tell and it’s time to be seen by others. 

So, here we go, welcome to Blog #1.

Love, Valerie


  • Get on your mat and recognize those thoughts and feelings that come up from your physical practice. 

  • Jot them down in your journal

  •  As you move through your day, recognize where those same limiting beliefs show up in your life.

  • Use S D C to go deeper (I found this a few months ago and have been slowly implementing this into my daily experience when it makes sense.):

    • STOP - your busy thinking

    • DROP - into your deeper knowing

    • CONNECT - with the feelings coming up

Do you need support on how to navigate the transformation wanting to happen in your life? Get in touch with me. I am here for you.  I LOVE empowering yogis on their path of connecting the moments on their mat to the moments in their life. I am committed to supporting the AYL community to their personal renewal. Together, we've got this.